Food is good here but better (and more fattening) in the South. At least from what I can tell so far. I will say the BBQ and pizza are better in StL and they have Sun Drop, toasted ravioli, frozen custard, provel cheese and are home of the Gooey Butter Cake. But the South wins in this category overall. Savannah has real sweet tea, boiled peanuts and fresh seafood.
Music is better in St Louis. The radio stations and music they play is far, far better. There is no comparison. I guess that is to be expected coming from a much larger city. I have heard songs on the radio here that I haven’t heard since I was in high school. Savannah has about as many concerts there in a year that St Louis has in a week. Just this week in StL the concerts are Brad Paisley, Todd Rundgren, Def Leppard, Styx, Tesla, Toby Keith, Eli Young Band and The Fall of Troy. I am sure there are many others too, really. And it’s like this every week. Its crazy.
Most would disagree with me but I love the Midwest Weather compared to the South. With fall being my absolute favorite season. St. Louis experiences hot, humid summers and cold winters. It is subject to both cold Arctic air and hot, humid tropical air from the Gulf of Mexico. The average annual temperature recorded is 57.1 °F. Both 100 and 0 °F temperatures can be seen on an average 2 or 3 days per year. Average annual precipitation is about 41.0 inches. The city has four distinct seasons:
Spring (March through May) is typically the wettest season, with 11.7 in of precipitation. Spring produces severe weather ranging from tornadoes to winter storms. St. Louis has thunderstorms 48 days a year on average. Especially in the spring, these storms can often be severe, with high winds, large hail and tornadoes. Lying near the hotbed of the Tornado Alley, St. Louis is one of the metropolitan areas with most frequent tornadoes.
Summers are hot and humid; temperatures of 90 °F or higher occur 43 days a year. The record high temperature is 115 °F.
Fall is mild and sunny, with lower humidity.
Winters can be brisk, as high temperatures below freezing occur 25 days per year, on average. Each winter regularly has at least one major snowstorm accumulating 4 inches or more. The season can also bring comparable amounts of rain; nonetheless, it is typically the driest season. Winter storm can yield heavy freezing rain, ice pellets, and snowfall. The daily average temperature in January is 31.8 °F. The official record low is −22 °F. The average seasonal snowfall is 17.7 inches.
Now Savannah is different, of course. Savannah’s climate is classified as humid subtropical. In the Deep South this climate is characterized by long and almost tropical summers, with temperatures reaching freezing on only 24 days in the winter and with rare snowfall, as the city is south of the snow line. I remember there was snow flurries in 1986 and they closed all the schools and the city freaked out. The snow wasn’t even sticking to the ground. Due to its proximity to the Atlantic coast, Savannah rarely experiences temperatures as extreme as those in Georgia’s interior. Nevertheless, the extreme temperatures have officially ranged from 105 °F to 3 °F.
Summers tend to be humid with many thunderstorms. Nearly half of Savannah’s precipitation falls during the months of June through September, characteristic of monsoon-type climates. The city is very low and possibly has bad drainage systems because when it rains, it floods. Savannah is at risk for hurricanes, and everyone there has been evacuated many many times.
Sports are huge in St Louis. St. Louis has three major league sports teams. The St. Louis Cardinals, one of the oldest franchises in Major League Baseball and they have won 11 World Series. The Cardinals’ 11 titles are second only to the New York Yankees’. The St. Louis Blues of the National Hockey League appeared in three Stanley Cup finals and made 25 consecutive playoff appearances. The city’s National Football League franchise, the St. Louis Rams, won the Super Bowl in 1999. I don’t know much about the Rams but apparently they are still kicking.
The city is also the birthplace of corkball. Ha! I just found that out. And is one of the few cities with a Corkball league. In case you don’t know, Corkball is a “mini-baseball” game featuring a 1.6-oz. ball and bat with a barrel that just 1.5″ across.
St. Louis has long had a reputation as being one of America’s soccer hotbeds, and is home to what is arguably the richest soccer history in the nation, despite not hosting a Major League Soccer franchise. The Saint Louis University men’s soccer team has made 16 NCAA Final Four appearances and has won 10 national championships. The team consistently ranks in the Top 10 of all Division I soccer teams in attendance. Every U.S. team in World Cup history has included at least one St. Louisan on its roster, and 29 St. Louisans have been inducted into the National Soccer Hall of Fame. Pretty impressive! StL also has 10 Minor League teams; including baseball, women’s football, soccer, women’s roller derby, basketball and rugby. Not to mention all of the Prep and College teams.
Now Savannah has a Minor league baseball team called the Sand Gnats. For real. They have a Women’s roller derby team also. But that might be it. Not to mention all of the Prep and College teams, of course. Again, there’s no comparison.
There is other things too… Both places has it’s share of bugs like roaches and mosquitoes and Savanah wins the cake on that one. It’s a close call but the little creatures must love the South more.
St Louis appears to be more green, both meanings of the word. Everything seems to be more of the color green outside; leaves, grass and all. And everyone here seems to recycle and are more environmentally conscious then I have seen anywhere else.
St Louisians seem more religious, more money conscious and less prejudice. But Savannahians are more laid back and relaxed. They go a bit slower and are not as busy. They carry more guns and like the dirt more. But none of this is probably a surprise.
Just to be fair and to put this in perspective…. The population in the city of Savh is 144,352 and it’s 319,294 in StL. But as far as the Metropolitian area goes, StL was ranked the 19th largest in the country and Savh was 142nd. Obviously the two cities can’t compare. But I have always tried to weigh out the pros and cons in my mind to see which place I wanted to live at more. My pros for Savannah is my daughter who lives there, my friends and fresh crab legs. My pros for St Louis is my family, autumn, sporting events, Imos, sledding, festivals, wineries and so many many sites. Maybe I made the right choice.
So I just subscribed to Birchbox. It’s a sampling company. You can also order full-size items from them. I just got my first package in the mail! And I think I’m going to love this. The actual box that it came in was a lot smaller than I thought it would be but the samples they chose to send me are great. For $10 a month Birchbox mails you different samples. There’s no contract so you can cancel anytime you want. I’ve heard so many good things about this company so I thought I’d give it a shot and try it for a month or two. So here is my review and the list of items I received.
I do one of these posts every year. Its kind of cheesy but fun. Fun for me, anyway. Previous post otherwise known as, My Favorite Things and My Current Distractions. These are the things I’m into right now….
Strangely, I am into Harry Connick Jr. It kind of hit me out of the blue. I came across him while watching American Idol and BAM! I was like ‘Wow, where have I been?’ I don’t get star struck often or easily, at least not since I was 16 yrs old, but I damn sure did now. It’s not so much Harry’s looks but his personality. Actually his middle name is Harry. In case you don’t know who he is (but who wouldn’t), he’s a singer, musician and actor. He’s funny, witty, charming, ohhhhhh…. He has sold over 28 million albums worldwide. Harry is ranked among the top 60 best-selling male artists in the United States. Yep, he’s a big deal. I could see me being one of those super fans or a groupie. He’s a year older than me and he’s Roman Catholic. We would have a beautiful wedding, if he wasn’t already married to an ex Victoria Secret model. He’s from New Orleans and his parents were important people down there; lawyers, judges and Supreme Court justices. Oh well, hopefully he’ll get divorced or widowed and I can snatch him up then.
Next, I am loving this shampoo called Wen. My hair dresser has been telling me about it for a while. I have hesitated purchasing it because it is $30. $30 is an awful lot to spend on shampoo when your poor. She kept telling me that I could really benefit from it since my hair is so thick and I have to use so much conditioner. So I finally broke down and bought it. I got the pomegranate flavor or scent. It wouldn’t be flavor if you don’t taste it, right? Well, anyway, it smells good. It takes the place of your shampoo, conditioner, spray in conditioner, detangler or whatever you use. I will say that I don’t like the fact that it doesn’t lather. No lathering at all. ha ha. It has the consistency or texture of conditioner. But it’s not. It really is shampoo. I double checked. I wouldn’t recommend it if you have fine or thin hair. But everyone else should try it. It makes your hair unbelievably soft. Its like I have someone else’s head of hair. My mom would be cracking up if she heard me say that. Wen is not supposed to have any harsh chemicals and all that stuff in it but I really wouldn’t know if it did or not. And to be honest, I really wouldn’t care either. But others do. Something that seems a bit extreme to me is their directions. This is what it says…. “Rinse hair thoroughly. Apply WEN® into your palms and rub together. Use 10-16 pumps for short hair, 16-24 for medium length hair and 24-32 pumps for long hair. If your hair is longer/thicker you may need to increase the amount of pumps.” Seriously? That is a lot of product used!! Craziness! But I do love the stuff and I will order it again.
Now onto Netflix. I really do not need any explanation done here. It speaks for itself. Who has time for a social life when they have a Netflix subscription? If you need a suggestion of something to watch, here is a few.. The Walking Dead, Call the Midwife, Mad Men, The Paradise, Scandal, Blacklist and some others I’m not going to mention. Plus, there is some great movies.
Then there is the Hao Mongolian Grill. Also known as the hahot mongolian grill from their sign out front. Or as me and my coworkers call it the ‘Who Ha’. Regardless of what name it has it is my favorite restaurant. It is located in Savannah not far from my work. My boss introduced it to me and I was surprised at how much I loved it. I generally don’t get into foreign food. Like at all. But geez, this place is off the dang hook. It’s basically oriental food with a do it yourself stir fry thingy. When you go in they give you a little silver bowl that looks like a dog food bowl. Your then directed to a bar of a variety of raw meats and seafood; steak, chicken, ham, turkey, bacon, shrimp, crab, etc..You get the idea. You drop a little butter in it and some garlic and then you are directed to the next bar. This one is all the veggies. With a wax paper dividing it, you pile on the extras of your choice. To top it all off you pick from the massive amount of sauces and spices. It is the same price no matter how much is in your bowl. It then is cooked in front of you by one of their Mongolian looking dudes. I think one of them thinks I am hitting on him since I go there so often. Really, I’m not. I’m so picky I only get sausage, turkey, onions, corn, peas, carrots and teriyaki sauce. Your given a choice of rice or noodles. I get both. It could be a healthy meal but then I drown it in shrimp sauce. It is so damn good! I could eat this everyday.
Last but not least….. My electric blanket. How do people live without one? I don’t understand. And I don’t ever want to find out. This is my 3rd one. I seem to burn through them pretty quick. They only last a couple of years for me. Am I treating them wrong or is that the life expectancy?
Thanks for sitting through my list. Whats your current interest???
Yep I never knew what a hedonist was before but I have been informed from the girls at work that I am one. I don’t remember ever hearing the actual word before. The name comes from the Greek word for “delight”. Apparently it’s not really something to brag about. But I can’t help it. I’m one of those that loves to be pampered or pleasured, not so in a sexual way just in general. The actual definition is….a person who believes that the pursuit of pleasure is the most important thing in life; a pleasure-seeker. Or
Yes, I would probably go to great lengths to get a pedicure, a massage, my head shampooed, fingernails painted, facial or anything resulting in pleasure. Yes, I’m all about me. I’m all about pleasure or relaxation and pampering, yes yes yes yes. Is that something to be ashamed of? I’m not sure but I know it’s how I feel. Are there others out there like me or am I all alone? Wikipedia states that Ethical hedonism is the idea that all people have the right to do everything in their power to achieve the greatest amount of pleasure possible to them, assuming that their actions do not infringe on the equal rights of others. It is also the idea that every person’s pleasure should far surpass their amount of pain. Ethical hedonism is said to have been started by some dude named Aristippus of Cyrene, a student of Socrates. He held the idea that pleasure is the highest good.
All hedonistic theories identify pleasure and pain as the only important elements of whatever phenomena they are designed to describe. If hedonistic theories identified pleasure and pain as merely two important elements, instead of the only important elements of what they are describing, then they would not be nearly as unpopular as they all are. However, the claim that pleasure and pain are the only things of ultimate importance is what makes hedonism distinctive and philosophically interesting. This is the serious part that I am not exactly sure of. Do I feel pleasure and pain are the ONLY things that matter? Probably not. But I do still love massages. According to non-philosophers, a stereotypical hedonist is someone who never misses an opportunity to indulge of the pleasures of sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll, even if the indulgences are likely to lead to relationship problems, health problems, regrets, or sadness for themselves or others. I’m close but maybe not that extreme.
I just got started with Younique, a direct sales company that specializes in premium-quality cosmetics . The company has only been around since 2012 and I am in awe! This stuff is amazing. Younique is the first direct-sales company to market and sell almost exclusively through the use of social media. Their pioneered Younique Virtual Parties bridge the huge world of social media and the traditional home-party business model. A Younique Virtual Party has no limits to your reach or who you can invite. This makes it so the traditional home party is not even necessary unless you choose to do it. They provide the innovative and interactive tools and invite you to tap into your own resources and connections that you already have. You can be a Younique Presenter from the comfort of your own home without ever having to physically have people in your home. I am especially fond of their mascara they call Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes. It goes on like mascara but looks like false lashes.
Not many people I know have heard of this company but something tells me they all will soon. I want to shout it to the rooftops but trying not to make my friends strangle me. I think everyone I know is burned out from me selling them things. So now I have to think of a new way to get the word out there. I’m using Facebook to advertise but I haven’t gotten many bites from it. I will probably have to break down and buy some business cards just so I can pass them out to strangers. I think once people try this thing they will love it! In fact I’m sure they will.
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You could host a virtual on-line party to earn free make up! And it is guaranteed! In addition to the mascara there is a whole line of make up including; eye shadows, primer, concealer, lip gloss, cleanser, moisturizer, blush and all. There is new lip and eye liners coming out September 1st. So if you know anyone who likes make up please tell them to get in touch with me about this and it’s also a great business opportunity. you can jump in and get involved for only $99.
I just found an old journal that I had started to keep from back in 2009. It’s kind of funny looking back at it now. A couple of pages from my journal reads…………………..
I would love to track my father’s ancestery. But what do you do when all the parties involved are deceased? How do you know if the information you’re tracking is accurate if they have very common names? My father was born in 1918 and his sister was older. Both have passed and obviously their parents have too. I just hate that I didn’t grill my dad with tons of questions when he was around. I should have gotten dates, times and places. That is probably my life’s biggest regret.
I tried the whole ancestry.com thing and it’s really hard to tell if it’s them with no proof. I don’t want to start to track someone and then I would be following the wrong John Smith. Ya know? My grandmother was an immigrant, which makes the search that much harder.
Now my mother’s family is easy to track and I have a lot of living relatives from that side. But I’ve always heard about that side of the family so there’s nothing on that side that makes me curious. My mother talked a lot about her past with memories, names and places. I like looking back on it but it doesn’t drive me with passion to search it all out like my dad’s.
It’s my dad’s family that I’m dying to know about and it’s not because I think they might be royalty or rich or anything like that. I don’t care if she was just a slave or dirt poor. I just want to know. I have only seen 2 pictures of my grandmother, I think. And maybe 1 of my grandfather. I have no idea where my grandfather grew up or anything about his side. My grandmother came over to America from Scotland and was born in Ireland. Or was born in Scotland and came here from Ireland. I’m not sure.
I wrote a post on my blog in August of 2012 about my grandmother. Or what I imagined her story was like. Any suggestions on how to hunt these Thomases down? Maybe I should go see a medium and ask. But that’s not really my thing.
Are you living in the part of the country you want to? If it were up to me and money wasn’t an issue then I would live in a different state. I love the Northeast, I love Texas (doesn’t everyone?) and I love St Louis. I even dream of how nice the Northwest would be. What am I doing living in the southeast? I ask myself that more and more the older I get. There’s so much about living in this area that I don’t care for. This is not the area of the country I should be living.
The reasons I DO live here are very simple. My one and only daughter lives here. And the other reason is my fella. He too, lives here. They both are my lifelines and support. I do love the city here; the size of it and the people. I have many friends here and have a job here. The southern food is so delicious and I love our accents too. People really are friendlier here and things just go at a slower pace. I like being in the bible belt and having so many people with conservative views around me. It’s not all bad. But…. If my daughter and Paul did not live here then I know I definitely wouldn’t be either. Where would you go??
I moved again. Thankfully it wasn’t too big of an adjustment. I moved to a different apartment but in the same complex. My lease was up and if I stayed where I was then my rent was going up. But I had an option to move to a smaller apartment for less rent. So obviously I changed to the smaller apartment.
I am glad I made the change for several reasons. It’s cute, quaint and makes me feel safe. I really didn’t need that much space living all alone. But when I say smaller…. it’s a lot smaller. Its 575 ft.². The hardest part was the packing, moving from one upstairs apartment to another upstairs apartment and unpacking.
There’s a few downsides of living in the new place. One is missing my balcony. I had a great screened in balcony that is now not included in this one. I also love windows and I love opening the blinds in the daytime. Now I only have one window. Also the stairwell reeks of nicotine and I’m not a smoker. My queen size bed barely fits. In fact I have to turn it at an angle just to make it fit in the space. My storage is limited and have had to be very creative for my kitchen cabinets contents. On the other hand, there is a lot to be said about downsizing. As long as you are organized and don’t have much clutter it can be a less stressful and a cheaper setting.
But all in all I think this was still the best move for me. I live in an upstairs apartment with no one below me. The ceiling fans kick butt and I don’t have to run the AC as much. If this apartment was located in New York City it would cost a fortune. It’s clean, safe and has every amenity. Quality not quantity. This will be the year I try to live within my financial means.
As 2013 comes to a close, I have begun to reflect over all that has occurred. A lot of changes and growth happened this year. I moved, changed jobs, lost weight, gained weight and went on a big vacation. You never know what’s to come with me. I like changes and if it were up to me I would keep on trying new things constantly.
The first half of the year I focused on saving money and becoming healthy. I was exercising regularly and religiously watched what I ate. I lost over 30 lbs and believed it was just the beginning of becoming a better me. I had a great working relationship with my dispatch partner, Dawn and all was looking up for me. Why oh why must I rock the boat when I am sailing thru calm waters? I get bored when things stay the same, I think.
In June I changed jobs and moved to a fabulous new dwelling. And my goodness, I love my new place. It’s an apartment in a great community. It has been 4 yrs since I lived alone and oh how I have missed the privacy and solitude. The new job is in the same line of work I have been in for years. It’s just a larger company with more money, better benefits and closer to home. But not what I was expecting at all. There is a lot I could say about this but I will refrain. At least for now.
With the move and the job change I fell off the wagon big time. The healthy wagon that is. I fell into my old ways and got comfortable. Mountain Dew goes down like water and my regular exercise regime is walking to and from my car. If coworkers order out then I have been jumping in too. Smelling Popeyes @ the desk next to me is just too much to bear. So unfortunately I gained all of my weight back, and some. I am working on trying to get back on track somehow. Exercise, water and healthier foods are in my future.
Then in November I took my first trip to Europe. I have dreamt of this my whole life. I went to Switzerland, France, Germany and The Netherlands. It was life changing for me. Something I will never forget. I put my job on hold and spent all my money but it was worth it. Traveling to me is more valuable than anything. I have to figure out a way to do it and get paid. So far I have been to Africa, Asia, Europe and of course North America. Still have three more continents to go.
This year I have learned that it is so hard to teach an old dog new tricks, that you can NEVER let your guard down on your weaknesses, and saving money IS the key. My highest point of the year was loosing weight, and my lowest point was gaining it all back. Like always, I am looking forward to the new year. I love new beginnings. And can’t wait to see what 2014 has in store for me!
I did a post over a year ago titled 10 of my favorite things. Well this post is going to list my current passions. Maybe I’ll do like Oprah and have a list for each year. Too bad I don’t have anything to give away. Maybe people would read my blog if I did. I love my lists.
1. Matrix Biolage Keratin Dose is a spray on leave in hair conditioner. This has saved me so much time in the mornings. And My hair has never been softer since I have started using this! I have tried other spray in conditioners but they are not anything like this one. Trust me, this is the best one out there!
2. Bath & Body Works Wallflower Fragrance Bulb with Sweet Pea Scent. Well Sweet Pea is my favorite not sure if it’s yours. My entire apartment smells of this incredible fragrance and I know I should have bought several more replacements. I think you can get 4 for $20. I can’t describe the scent but I think most people know what it smells like.
3. Brita filtered bottle – By reducing the taste and odor of Chlorine, Brita® filters transform tap water into great-tasting drinking water. I have spent so much money on bottled waters. This saves me a ton. You only need to change the filter every 2 months. Now I can just fill my water bottle at any faucet and it tastes great. Lately I have been filling it with ice and letting it slowly melt down.
4. Grandma’s Vanilla Sandwich Cookies! Oh my Lord these are good. I have found these in the vending machine @ work and am now hooked. I get the minis and believe these are the best little vanilla cookies out there. Not good if your dieting though, unless you eat just one. Ha!
5. Monograms. I am totally into monograming this year. There’s so many things on my wish list that is monogrammed.
6. Prilosec. Over the counter one, not the prescription. For some reason, the prescription (which may be the exact same thing) doesn’t work for me at all. I feel like I would be dead without it. And wouldn’t you know it but the OTC one is more expensive.
7. Mary Kay liquid black eyeliner. No explanation needed.
8. Downton Abbey…. Yes, I wrote a whole post on my blog on this. Now just counting down the days until the next season starts. 7 more days to be exact. I don’t know anyone that watched it that didn’t fall completely in love with it.
9. The Do Not Disturb option on my iPhone settings. Yes! Most people use it for when they sleep. I use it during the day. And at night…
10. Candy Cane Thrill blizzard (or milkshake) from DQ. It screams my name. I love it!!
Whats your favorite things for 2013. I could go on and on but am limiting myself to 10 on here.
I wrote this post almost 3 months ago but never published.
I’m not exactly sure how this post will turn out because I am under the influence of pain medication at this time. I have been having a time with my teeth this year. Somehow and someway I just let my teeth go. Don’t misunderstand me, they are not yellow or grimy looking. They are clean, white and straight. But apparently two of my teeth need root canals. I have been having ungodly toothaches and in terrible pain. Toothaches have to be the worst pain ever. I don’t have the money for a root canal and my dental insurance has reached its yearly allowance. So what to do….
I don’t want to pull them but can’t stay in this pain. If I hurry up and change jobs then I can get new dental insurance. Or maybe I can date a Endodontist. I could cash out some of my retirement or sell my only car. Ok, ok, I’m not really going to do any of those suggestions. So I guess my real options are to have both bad teeth pulled, go to the clinic in the hood or bear with the pain until I save up enough for 2 root canals. Life sucks. It’s never easy and something always comes along to trip us up. I will never be rich so I need to brace myself for more and more financial burdens to be thrown my way.
Well, since I originally wrote this I have been under an Endodontist care. I have so far spared my teeth. Whewwww. I DID however change jobs and got new dental insurance so it will include a root canal. It’s weird how the older we get then more and more of our health seems to slowly fall apart. I could have prevented this but got very complacent. Since this occurred I have become obsessed with flossing my teeth. Really. I cannot eat a thing without flossing afterwards. And if I have a sweet tea to drink or any kind of soft drink then I want to run brush my teeth afterwards to rinse the sugar off of my teeth. I wish I would have started this behavior 10 years ago. Oh well. We live and learn.
I have finally moved! I could not be happier. Really. I have been so grateful to Paul and Kari for opening their homes to me. But there is nothing like being in your own space. It’s been a long time coming but this place has made it worth the wait. I could not have found a more perfect place for me to rest my head at night. I am very picky and its checks off every one of my requirements.
My drive is only 30 minutes to work, 40 minutes to Paul’s and 40 minutes to Kari’s. I have a pharmacy and grocery store right across the street, in addition to lots of other businesses. The location is safe and clean. I guess they always say location, location, location is the key and I believe it. I have never lived in this county before and don’t know many people in the area but I am up for the change.
I am living in a gated community with all the amenities. There’s the pool, 24 hr gym, car wash station and more. The staff here really do an outstanding job of customer service and they try to take care of everything for you including changing your light bulbs, your air filters and more! I have a great upstairs apartment with a screened in balcony and plenty of closet space. My place looks brand new. The peace and quiet of living all alone again is so refreshing.
I’m not sure how long I will be this fortunate but I will appreciate every day spent here. I know all too well how easy it is to lose it all. This is the happiest I have been in my life in many many years. Finally having a place to call home has given me a sense of stability. I have found a new church home and getting situated with my new job. Everything seems to be falling into place.
It’s been a long time since I have posted anything on here. I have been so busy with some life changes. But I need to share something that has been weighing heavy on my heart. I have been watching from afar as a loved one has struggled with an unfair hardship. This story is for him.
There’s someone named John that means a lot to me. John used to be married to Bertha Nevaeh. She is an evil ugly woman. Bertha had convinced John to marry her after just two months of courtship. John obviously was stupid and fell under her spell.
John and Bertha had lots of children together in the short time they were together and allowed her to walk all over him. Ugly Bertha made all the rules and was very controlling. She didn’t approve of his family or friends. After 10 years of marriage, ugly Bertha decided to kick poor John to the curb. Literally. He was served with papers and had to get out. Broke and distraught he left his wife, children and home with only $11 to his name.
His evil wife was having an affair while he had to live out of his work vehicle. Yes, this is a true story! His boss then allowed him to sleep on a cot in his business for 10 days and thankfully was feeding him. He moved a few times after that renting a room here and there. He did what he had to do, kept his job and continued to see and care for his children.
All the children were confused and upset about the family being broke apart and the chaos around them. Their oldest child decided to reach out to her mother’s church friends for help. Well once ugly Bertha found out, she kicked their eldest out too. So the child moved right in with John and he raised her all alone for the 4 years she was in high school. Bertha just wrote the eldest off and wanted nothing to do with her because she thought of her as a traitor. Wow!
After many many years all alone, John has finally fallen in love with a beautiful woman named Angelina. Angelina is kind and patient and so sweet. She is soft-spoken and gentle. She is everything that ugly Bertha is not. But amazingly, Bertha is still controlling John to some degree. Ugly Bertha is using the children as pawns and is constantly threatening to withhold visitation for one reason or another.
I don’t know how long beautiful Angelina can hang in there while Bertha torments their relationship. Bertha calls at all hours of the night and is still upsetting John by her constant drama.
John — please hear me out…. Cut all ties with evil ugly Bertha! You have no reason to have contact with her. Your children are all old enough to know how to get in contact with you. They understand their mother is a mental case. You have your family and friends supporting you. And most importantly, do not mess up your relationship with the best thing woman you have ever had, Angelina.
I don’t mean to hurt your feelings and I love you like a sister. Do what you need to do. Just thought if you read it in black and white then you could see the big picture.
A few days ago my friend Linda died. I just can’t believe she is gone. I can not seem to think of anything else. I just keep wanting to pick up the phone and call her. She would be shocked over this too. This seems to be unreal. I am constantly remembering back through all my memories of her and the last time I saw her. The last time I think I saw her was a year ago and I went to her house. I sat at her kitchen table with her as we gossiped about all our old co-workers. We laughed and enjoyed reminiscing over old times. I told everyone she was 59 but she was actually 62. Oops. She definitely didn’t look it. I should have went and seen her since then. I’m such a slack friend. But I do know that she knew I loved her.
She was a 911 dispatcher. She was feisty. She had been at the same job for 29 long years according to her boss. But the obituary from the funeral home has that she worked there 26 years. So I’m not sure exactly. Regardless she loved that job and devoted her life to it. But over the last 5 or 10 years she was really getting burned out. Who could blame her? She trained me and so many others. She tried to be so thorough. Everyone in the small town of Pembroke has spoken to her over the phone at one time or another. She dispatched police, Ems, fire, animal control, among others. She answered the 911 calls and administrative lines. She sacrificed so much time with her family during holidays and special events to keep her job going.
Linda had the biggest heart. She would give you a ride, share her lunch with you and welcome you into her home. She would take home a stray dog or someone who needs a place to sleep. She was very trusting and super country. She lived like very few people I know. She loved horses, her two children and her grand kids. She was very unique and they just don’t make people like her anymore. She’s from a different era. It always made me smile to hear her pronounce the word, window. She would say windrs. It was so cute how she threw in a R in certain words. And because of that I would call her Linder. LOL.
We spent hours upon hours talking and sharing secrets when we worked. She was the best listener. I confided in her with so much. And she was like a vault and never ever told a secret. I remember seeing her hold it together at her husbands funeral. But mostly I will remember the laughs we had. What an awesome lady! Gosh, I will miss her so much and can’t imagine what her family is going through. Her death was such a shock. Here is the words the Flanders funeral home has on-line about her,
“Linda Fanning Wilkes, age 62 died Friday afternoon at East Georgia Regional Medical Center. Mrs. Wilkes was a long-time resident of Bulloch County and worked as a 911 dispatcher for Bryan County for over 26 years. She loved to fish, was a member of Believer’s Church in Statesboro and was preceded in death by her husband of 42 years, Buddy Wilkes.
Survivors include her son Robert Allen Wilkes of Bulloch County; daughter and son-in-law Darlene and Aaron Barnard of Bulloch County; brother Johnny Fanning of Groveland; sisters Betty Hughes and Mary Cowart, both of Claxton; five grandchildren Candi Carroll, Christy Daley, Brandon Conder, Dakota Wilkes and Michelle Wilkes and three great grandchildren Matthew Fordham, MacKenzy Fail and Nathan Albaugh.
Visitation will be held 6-9 P.M. Tuesday, May 14, 2013 at the funeral home. Funeral services will be held 11 A.M. Wednesday, May 15, 2013 in the chapel of Flanders Morrison Funeral Home with Pastor Scott Moore officiating. Flandersmorrisonfuneralhome.com”
Rest In Peace my friend, I love you!
Well today sucked. But no one can say I didn’t try. Here, let me explain….. I applied on-line to be on NBC’s The Biggest Loser Season 15 about 6 months ago, maybe even longer than that. I finally heard back from them on April 22nd. They suggested I show up in person @ the Open Casting Call today in Charleston if I was still interested. I have really been wanting to do this. It’s a once in a lifetime opportunity to lose weight and compete to win $250,000. About a week ago, a friend from work mentioned she and another girl were planning on going to it also and suggested we all go together. That made my day. Whewwww, I won’t have to face it all alone.
On April 30th I received an email from The Biggest Loser Casting Group offering me a ‘cut the line’ pass. This email entitled me and one friend a spot at the front of the line at the Charleston casting call. It gave instructions on exactly what time they expected me and where to go. But, about two days ago, I was advised that one of the girls probably was going to bail on the trip. That was okay though. There will still be two of us going and we’ll still be in good shape (no pun intended). We got together last night to sort out all of our plans. All is good. We made a couple of videos together and I printed out some pictures they have requested. I stayed at my daughter’s house last night and went to bed at a decent hour but between my nerves and the fact that I work straight nights, I tossed and turned all night.
I got up bright and early this morning to the sound of pouring down rain and a throbbing headache. I was still excited though. I took extra care in getting ready and fixing my hair, ya know you gotta look nice for the cameras. I knew I had to get out the door by 930am in order to pick my friend up on the way and was running right on schedule. As I was putting the final touches on my make up and spraying down my hair for the last time, I glanced at my phone and noticed a text message. It was from my friend telling me that she had to cancel. Oh nooooooooooo! I panicked for a second. Not sure I could mentally do this on my own. Being unsuccessful with finding a replacement ride along, I decided to buck up and just do it on my own. Yep, all by myself. A few tears later and I was driving off into the clouds and rain.
Along the way there, my bad luck seemed to hang with me. I had to unexpectantly slam on the brakes and my purse flew to the floor and all the contents being dumped all over. Lovely! It was just one thing after another. My gps wouldn’t work so I had to use the navigation on my phone and my shoes were killing my feet. What in the world is going on?! Finally made it there 2 and a half hours later, parked in the garage and proceeded to the crazy line that wrapped around the building. You would think American Idol was in town. After standing in line for a few minutes I remember my ‘head of the line’ pass. I asked a girl in front of me if everyone got one and she had never heard of it. So, I ditched the line and headed for the entrance of the building. What do you know, the damn pass worked! Something is actually going my way. Shocker! Once inside a staff member had me fill out a form and collected one of my pictures. I was then put at a long table with about ten other applicants and one staff member. She interviewed all of us at once. We each got about 30 seconds to a minute to tell our story.
I am not shy and never hold back. But when the lady called on me to speak I all of a sudden got nervous and could not even remember my age. Really. All the others at my table were smooth. They almost all had a super dramatic story to tell. Their kid was dying of cancer or they had been homeless at one time or their husband used to beat them. Jeez. Then I said I live in Georgia and I’m a dispatcher. Hahaha. That’s almost all I could think of. Some of the others even broke into tears. I wanted to scream out, “Liar”. Why didn’t I cry? I never sounded so plain and normal in my whole life. And before I knew it the interview was over.
Feeling like a failure and still milking my headache, I made my way to the parking garage to retrieve my car as I craved IHOP pancakes. And there I find someone parked so close to my car I could not even squeeze between their car and mine to get in. I’m surprised I don’t have a flat tire. Somehow someway I managed to get into my car and leave. Reset the navigation on my phone to my home address this time and not my daughter’s, I started my longer drive home in the rain. But this time the phone gps took me all back woods and even down dirt roads. I thought my car was going to get stuck in the mud at one point. Today just wasn’t my day. I obviously know I won’t be picked for this reality show. I will just have to keep on keepin on with my weight loss journey on my own. I have lost 26.6 lbs all by myself over the last 5 months. I can do this!
I have worked in Public Safety for over 12 years. I’m a dispatcher and have been with several different agencies. I have dispatched Police, Deputy Sheriffs, Ambulances, Helicopters and Fire Depts, among others. Over the years people have asked me if I would ever consider working the street as an EMT or paramedic. Well the answer is no and always has been. Nothing about patient care appeals to me. I admire and respect those who can do it but I am not one. If it is your calling then I do think you will get a great sense of accomplishment from it.
Here is just some reasons on why I choose not to work on an ambulance……
* I do not like the sound of cockroaches crackling under my feet as I walk thru a strangers living room.
* Sitting in a cramped space in the back of an ambulance caring for a homeless man who has bugs and crumbs in his beard with a really bad stench in the middle of the summer is not my idea of a good time.
* Scheduled to work a 24 hr shift and after running calls all day, finally laying down and dozing into a nice sleep and the tones go off and have to jump up and run out the door to another call. No snooze button.
* Running a call in the pouring rain to go to meet with the police on the side of the road so they can have you check out an extremely intoxicated person who was driving and is now spitting in your face while talking too loud.
* Being puked on, bled on, taking care of someone with very bad diarrhea and seeing other bodily fluids is not a career I dream of.
* Running a 911 call to a patient that is having a minor issue like a cold that could be handled in a doctor’s office.
* Getting paid the same amount that someone in Wal-Mart gets while saving someones life.
* Being exposed to a variety of blood-borne infectious diseases and illnesses.
* Dealing with death of the very young, child abuse or rapes face to face.
* Having to lift very large obese patients that eventually over time cause havoc on your back and legs.
There’s many more but I will stop at ten. You get the point. It is not a job for just anyone. I admire, respect and love soooooo many that do this for a living. I am not slamming them by any means. Just stressing the reasons on why it’s not for me.
I read an article not long ago about bed bugs. I never thought much about them until recently. I work at a fire station and one of the stations was having an infestation of them just recently. Between reading the article and hearing the talk about them at work, I began to get a bit itchy just thinking about them. This morning I checked into the Wingate by Wyndham. I travel and stay in hotels room every couple of months. I live more than a 90 minute drive from work so sometimes its easier to just get a room then drive that far when tired. Never ever felt squeamish from a room before. I can pull back the sheets and go right to sleep without a second thought. Oh, but not today.
I’m creeping out. That damn article. Now I am laying here and can’t thing of anything else but those nasty bug bugs. Ever couple seconds I think I feel something on my leg, and then my head or my arm. Ughhhhhh. I have got up and investigated the sheet twice already. I don’t want to check out. I just got here an hour and half ago. I wish I could just think of something else. My ear is itching and then my foot is. This is ridiculous. There can’t be bug bugs here. This has got to be my imagination. Gosh, I hope the little suckers don’t crawl into my suitcase. Am I ruined for hotel stays for the rest of my life now? What am I going to do?
I do believe in mind over matter. The term mind over matter refers to controlling pain that one may or may not be experiencing. Thankfully I fell asleep eventually. The mind is a very powerful thing. It’s what holds us back and what helps us to overcome addictions. Mind over matter can be used in just about every aspect in our lives.
Have you gotten into the whole Downton Abbey craze? I held off as long as I could but yes, I have. If you have been living under a rock and haven’t heard of it let me tell you about it. Downton Abbey is a British period drama television series that comes on PBS. The first thing I have ever watched on PBS since Sesame Street. Its only been aired in the US since January of 2011. It is a series, set in the fictional Yorkshire country estate of Downton Abbey, representing the lives of the aristocratic Crawley family and their servants in the post-Edwardian era — with the great events in history having an effect on their lives and on the British social hierarchy. I never in a million years thought I would get into something like this. But oh my Gosh, I am in love with it!!!
Downton Abbey has received critical applause from television critics and won numerous accolades, including a Golden Globe Award for Best Miniseries or Television Film and a Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Miniseries. It was recognised by Guinness World Records as the most critically acclaimed English-language television series of 2011, and became the first international television series to receive the largest number of nominations in the history of the Primetime Emmy Awards, with twenty-seven in total. It was the most watched television series on both ITV and PBS. By the third series, it had become one of the most widely watched television shows in the world. You just cannot argue with those statistics.
It takes place from the year 1912 to 1921. Or at least that’s where it left off on Sunday night, Season 3 finale. The scene of Downton Abbey on the show from the outside and most of it inside is actually Highclere Castle. Highclere Castle is a 1000 acre country house in Hampshire, England, United Kingdom. Filming of the 4th series begins this month. I have no idea when it is coming back on but I can promise you I am holding my breath waiting. I must say I was peered pressured into watching it and since then I have been trying to threaten others around me to do the same. I got my daughter to watch it and she loves it as much as I do. I have met two people (Amanda Legassi and Carol Shuman) who said it just wasn’t their cup of tea, no pun intended. I may be shocked but not offended. To each their own.
I beg of you to try to give it a shot. If you get On-Demand through your cable company then watch it that way. Thats the best. But if not, go to pbs.org and watch them all on-line for free (for a limited time). If all else fails, go to youtube.com and pay to watch them. Get comfortable and get ready for the show to begin. Wonderful one-liners like, “What’s a weekend.”